A MAN LEARNT THAT HIS WIFE HAD AN AFFAIR, AND HIS NEWBORN CHILD WAS ACTUALLY NOT HIS OWN

A man had shared a story on Reddit and wanted some advice. He had stated that his wife was having a close relationship while she was working, with a colleague of her, and when their baby was born, and looked nothing like both of them, he learnt that his wife had an affair with her colleague.

“About a year ago, one of my buddies/coworkers who just so happens to be married to a woman that works with my wife “Jane” came to me and confided that his wife believed there was something fishy going on with my wife and a man named Ryan. They were getting unnaturally close, spending time alone behind closed doors even though they don’t directly work together, and the way they were interacting with each other was causing rumors to spread throughout their office.” the man had stated that one of the person that his wife was working with had told him that his wife is in a close relationship with a man at work, and there are rumors about them.

He then talked with his wife to stay away from that man, and she accepted. Then they found out that she was pregnant. They were both happy, but once the baby was born, he had saw that their baby wasn’t looking like both of them.

“few months later, we discovered that she’s pregnant. We were genuinely excited to become parents. I ended up meeting Ryan at a baby shower, and got a good look of his appearance. My wife and I were probably the happiest we’d ever been while she was pregnant. Then three months ago, she gave birth to a son. It didn’t take long before I began to realize the baby looked nothing like the two of us. “

He then described himself and his wife’s physiqual appearance, and stated that their baby was different from them. “Jane and I have light colored hair, pale skin, and blue eyes. Yet “our son” is several shades darker than us both, has brown eyes, dark hair, and even more oddly a cleft chin. Ryan has all of these features as well. The past three months I’ve been driving myself crazy wondering who is father actually is. Many friends and relatives who have seen the baby have made remarks about little he resembles us as well. Anytime myself or something else has mentioned how odd he looks with us, Jane’s just laughed and chucked it up to genetics being finicky.”

Then he had talked with his wife about the worm that was eating him out, and told her that if she had an affair with Ryan, her colleague. “This week I couldn’t take the thought of her having cheated on me and I admitted to Jane my fears, and asked if there was a way that the baby isn’t mine. She went ballistic; I told her for my piece of mind I wanted to get a paternity test and she then threatened to divorce me for not trusting her.”

Then while he was searching on the internet, and Reddit, he learnt, “unless he’s a genetic anomaly, her son didn’t come from the two of us.”

Then his wife had admitted that she had cheated on her. “I forwarded it to her, and she finally came clean about the affair. I’ve already gotten in touch with a lawyer, despite Jane promising me that everything between her and Ryan is over and her pleas to try and be a family of three. She knows how much I love kids and is using that against me. I’ve bonded with her baby and I do love him, but I have no desire to raise another man’s baby with my cheating soon to be ex wife. We will be taking a paternity test soon, but neither myself or Jane are expecting it come back a match. The problem is that now Jane is asking me to still watch her son. She recently had to return to work from maternity leave, and I had originally scheduled all of my vacation time for the year to watch the baby in between the end of Jane’s maternity leave and her mom’s return from California.”

He had stated, “So now I’m stuck having to care for the constant reminder of my wife’s affair. Obviously it’s not the baby’s fault, but I can’t even begin to tell you how much I don’t want to spend the next seven weeks bonding with this child. This all just sucks.”

He concluded his post and asked for advice as, “I never expected to be in this situation, and I’m terrified that regardless of the paternity test I will still end up financially and legally responsible for this kid. Ryan wants “out” of the entire situation according to my wife. I don’t even know what to do at this point, but I do know that I’m really hate the idea of being responsible for this kid, which just makes me feel guilty on top of depressed.”

Here are some advices given by other Redditors.

“Don’t do it go back to work and have her take him to day care. It’s not your responsibility to care for it that is your wife and Ryan’s burden to bear.”

“You know what she is doing, right? Trying to make you bond with the child so you won’t leave her….”

“Ryan wants out of this situation? Well tough shit for Ryan. Tell your stbxw she should focus on getting paternity established for his lucky ass because you’re the one who’s getting out of this situation.”

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